Courage– When presented with change, we often respond with fear. Though thing are always changing, fear is the initial instinctive response, likely because not only do we tend to be creatures of habit, but the unknown is scary. We are wired to get through, and when we begin preparing ourselves and developing a plan to get through the situation, we have a difficulty and feel inability because that fearfulness takes over as the norepinephrine begins pumping send us into “fight or flight” mode, hindering our cognition and often judgment. This can make if very difficult for many to muster up the courage to take the necessary changes that will lead to change/growth. The hindrance, if given into, prevents us from eve know what change may bring because we simply have never tried it. The only solution to progressing through our journey is to overcome the fear, embrace acceptance and allow things to happen. Without change, we essentially become stagnant, and that does not make us feel very well. Change is one of the few things that remain constant, so afford yourself the opportunity of not resisting and focus on the growth you aspire to attain.
Commitment– Once you have been able to bring yourself to a place where you can accept the change that needs to take place, you’re going to need to continue bringing your way through it. It is a process. Just as it took time to get where you are, it is going to take time to get where you are going. It’s not going to happen in one, two, or three events. It is natural and part of the process to feel like giving up at times during the process you endure the uncomfortable feelings that arise. REmind yourself that you made a commitment and why you made the commitment. You have already put too much into your efforts to not persist to the in order to get to the place where your aspired goals await.
Compassion-No one is harder on yourself than you are. Sometimes, we are harder on ourselves as a result of our past, current, or present environment, and after all it has become second nature. That is a critical component when you speak to yourself. You must speak to yourself using kindness, understand, grace, and truth. You will realize that most of the negative self-talk can be resisted as there’s nothing to substantiate most of it. You’re reacting in a way that is likely the only way your body knows as an attempt to help. There is often constructive criticism that can be taken when this happens which allows you to ponder on what it is that is practical and can be worked on in order to improve throughout your process while still being kind to yourself and understanding that you are human, and you make mistakes, but you also have the drive to do better. This is value. Overall, it is the key of progression in our growth.
Consistency-Lastly, we must not only be consistent in our efforts but also in focusing on reaching the point of achievement that you have been after this entire time.Again, we are humans are creatures of habit, and though it can have its downfalls,it also allows us to go into “auto-pilot” in a sense after a while and creates a tendency of the same actions to occur at the same time everything or the same place,time, place, fashion, etc. This is beneficial as it will ease the mental strain on focusing so intensely on how to reach that destination and pull our head above the water. Research indicates it takes 21 days for the human brain to be rewired. That means it also takes 21 days to kick a habit and develop new healthier habits.
This is a universal theory that can be applied to any person goal or potential for growth, and all it takes is your effort, even if enlisting someone to assist is necessary. It is still you that has achieved your desired potential of growth. After that, you celebrate by playing in the ra and jumping in the puddles of water!